The search for perfection is obviously futile, but there is a very big exception to all this trouble . . . (more…)

To all you perfectionists, respectfully, “You’re either stupid or deluded”, and I’ll tell you why . . . (more…)

People don’t like being forced into something they don’t want to do. The more the pressure, the more the resistance. The more the force, the further the rebellion. In parenting its the same. The tighter the controls, the bigger the rebellion and its the same with a lot of things - staff, customers, dispute resolution, mediation and Search Engines (believe it or not).

It’s like soap . . . (more…)

While others see beauty in a tree and want to save it from the timber merchants, I see fireword, carving, construction timber and unlimited possibilities to create something. While others may see road or building construction as a nuisance, I love the focussed energy it brings. I’m excited by mankind’s progress and the improved efficiency and opportunity that the new road or building will bring to the world. (more…)

I slipped a mate of mine an email recently checking out how he was getting on. Just a little note along the lines of, “Hey Ray, haven’t heard from you in a while. How’s things”. The short story . . . he’s dead. Darn. I hate it when that happens. The long story . . . (more…)

For a guy who loves to hit things hard, like as in 100%, 100% of the time, its interesting and sobering to see others suffer as a result of hitting things too hard. I want to scream out to them - “Easy does it” to save their own bacon . . . (more…)

Sometimes, not everything seems as it really is . . . (more…)

Some people say I’m a sucker because I trust people too much. Most of the time they’re right and when things go wrong, it’s a big call to let it go. Sometimes we just have to.

A while ago the key technician for Go Kiwi Internet screwed something up big-time . . . (more…)

I have published three times a week, and the total content exceeds 50,000 words, in some 75 Posts. The core content will be available in an easy-to-read PDF and book format shortly. In the meantime, the raw text can be viewed here. Please drop me a note [E-Mail me: dennis AT dennis.co.nz] if you wish to get a copy when it becomes available.

I am taking time-out for the next few months to work on other writing projects - Lipstick on a Pig and the Internet UNMASKED!! book series.

Thank you for your support.

Now just so we don’t get off on a tangent here, men are a pain too, except that if women might tend to live in the past, men live more in the future. “I’m gonna this . . . I’m gonnna that. I’m gonna get me a [whatever] . . . or I’m gonna do [whatever]”. This guy thing, the dreaming thing, is all very well but it can get you into trouble if you’re not careful. (more…)

It’s not because I have an addiction to work, it’s because I love what I do. My work is creative, challenging, interesting and it gives me a great sense of satisfaction when things come together. The trick is to get the balance right, and find meaning and purpose from who we are - not what we do. (more…)

Hmmm - a good point about letting go of morality “just a little”. I’ve got an algebraic formula about this one percent thingamajig . . . (more…)

I reckon there might be a bit of Greek in me somewhere back yonder, because as a big picture guy, I’m constantly challenged to complete the minor details and finish a job. The last 1% however is more important than you’d think and can be pretty dangerous if not taken note of. (more…)

The trouble with being anti something is two-fold. First you become less able to BE something in your own right as your focus is on trying not to be what you hate. Secondly you can fall into what I call the Anti-Trap - actually becoming that which you tried to avoid, despite your best efforts not to. (more…)

Remove or minimise the fear, or pain, and the house of cards will come tumbling down to enable new thought patterns and healthy behaviour to flourish. While this is easier said than done, there is one simple key to the process . . . (more…)

These two little “puppies” really are like pillars in a Roman Temple - they hold the whole thing up. One or the other always rears its ugly little head if you dig deep enough. Knowing your enemy really helps us to target the attack. Sometimes they’re really difficult to identify, but when they’ve been fingered correctly, a great relief is possible. The first aim of counselling should be to identify the cause of the condition. (more…)

I don’t believe for one minute that the likes of Helen Clark or Hillary Clinton is totally impervious to criticism like she makes out. I think that those in higher places learn to act, to put on a mask, to deal with criticism, knowing that the price for power is that they just have to take it. (more…)

Being an entrepreneur is sometimes pretty lonely, as you have to lead from the front, take the flak, set the vision and make it all happen. Not everybody appreciates your own commitment to your vision and sometimes its just bl***y bloomin’ hard work. So it’s kinda nice when somebody flatters you even if it is with a backhanded compliment. (more…)

The essence of Good Design is that one design can achieve a given purpose better than another “Lesser “Design. It is assumed of course that there is a designer. (more…)

This is the idea that random acts of gradual change, whether by mutation or otherwise cannot account for living beings, or sub-components of life, that require the simultaneous creation of more than one component in order to perform a required function. (more…)

I communicate well through typing. I always have. I seem to be able to gather my thoughts so much better in writing than in talk, but the only emotional connection I get when using the little sucker cell phone is watching my blood pressure rise the more I try to use it. (more…)

A key thought in this angry state is often to ask questions. Why is this happening to me? Why did they do this? What can I do about it? What is the cause? How do I do things differently?

I’ve noticed that some of my best business decisions have come after a time of processing anger. (more…)

Stuff that makes my blood boil is like when the Rainbow Warrier happens. What total arrogance. The French quite rightly cop our indignation - mine was bordering on rage, especially when they played political games and passed the blame upward, sideways and out, to a paradise Island. Yup that triggered one unholy reaction in me that still seethes away every time I hear the words France or French.

We all know what it can do to us but dealing with anger is not as simple as saying just don’t get angry. It doesn’t work like that. (more…)

I first heard it years ago, but its a good one to draw out the idea of just getting on with life, no matter what happens to you.

It goes like this: (more…)